Tired of being read as condescending
We got a new printer and I said it was a weekend task to set up so I didn't work on it. Sis's BF set it up but his laptop won't find it on the network. Later my sis needed help opening a pickle jar and all 3 of us struggled with it with him finally doing it but then getting pickle juice over himself so he had to change. He half-joke half-real grumbled about how he set up the printer but can't print and he opened this jar but doesn't even want a pickle. I said if he wants to print, he can email me or my sister.
My sister started laughing and said that was so condescending. I was genuinely confused on this and asked why. She said, something about it, like email us like we're professors or something. Idk if it's because of my tired tone or the fact that I stated it in an objective manner that maybe meant it was read as a command? Honestly boggling because I thought I was presenting an option but I guess I didn't phrase it right.
It's tiring knowing that my sis and her BF see me as condescending sometimes. I guess this is what I get for being too openly opinionated and judgmental about media and other things in my younger years. I feel like I'm better about this now but their perceptions of me are lagging and may never catch up. Maybe I come off too much like I think there's a single right answer sometimes. I do think that occasionally.
Tired. Can't fully be myself or I'm "condescending" or whatever. Cant deny I judge media by a lot of standards people don't care about. Can't deny I rank things. My sister also ranks things in spreadsheets but I guess she's less exclusionary so it's fine.
Our relationship is always Good besides whenever these moments happen and I feel like I'm thrown into water for some reason. And then I wonder why I can't leave but then my sister does something nice for me materially. And I'm like ok that's pretty nice i guess this is as good as it gets